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Daddy daycare is over:(   sad face

6/19/2013

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PictureAt the golf tourney, loving the stroll.
I guess it’s been an eventful week or two.  Lil B and I have had a lot of fun.  Unfortunately, Daddy Daycare has come to an end, for the most part.  Lindsay had her last day of work and is now home with us.  As much work as it was, having her all to myself was a lot of fun.  With as much fun as we’ve had, there has been an event that has reminded all of us how little our problems really are.

One of my college roomates, groomsmen, and a great friend, Eric Nickoli, and his wife gave birth to their first child, at 23 weeks gestation, on June 8th.  Tiny Judah Elizabeth Nickoli was born weighing a whopping 1.9 lbs.  And we thought Bentley had weight problems.  Not only was she 17 weeks early, but Katie went into labor while they are in Northern California working at JH Ranch.  This is not the easiest camp in the world to get to.  There aren’t exactly any major University Medical Centers nearby.  As you can imagine, Judah is having quite a fight to stay alive.  According to their Facebook page “Praying for Judah Elizabeth Nickoli,” the extended family has made it out there, but the stress and decisions as to what should be done next is starting to weigh heavily on them both.  I know there are a few of you reading this who have lost infants or young children and I can’t begin to know what that impending pain can feel like.  I imagine it would come close to having your heart cut out with a spoon (Robin Hood reference) but way way worse.  Please send some serious prayers their way as they make some incredibly tough decisions in the days to come and deal with this fragile situation.  We are praying for them constantly.

Bentley’s world seems so normal and boring in comparison, but I’ll update you anyways.  One of the last big outings we had for Daddy Daycare involved taking Bentley out to The Regions Tradition.  I really loved this.  I don’t know how many dads would take their infant to a golf tournament, by themselves, but I DID.  It was a blast.  As soon as we arrived she started to get hungry so I popped a squat by the practice green and fed her.  We watched as some young kids covered their hats in autographs, and chased down more.  Storms were beginning to roll in from afar so the breeze was picking up.  Bentley loved it.  She kept grinning and doing her penguin flap move which means “I like it.”  Right before the storm hit my sis pulled us into the clubhouse and turned B into a little celebrity.  A friend had made B a little “I love Children’s Hospital” outfit, and we stuck a few logos on it.  Katherine Webb, Miss Alabama USA 2012, was there doing some PR stuff for Children’s and she spent a little time hanging out with Bentley.  She tweeted a sweet, as in cute not awesome, pic of them to her 250,000 followers.  That was sweet, as in awesome not cute.  Children’s of Alabama along with the Champions Tour also tweeted and posted pics of Bentley on their social media sites.  Aunt Jess, being the PR guru, absolutely loved the press.  I thought it was pretty cool myself.  While Bentley was being passed around the Club House, I had the opportunity to meet a couple of Air Force pilots and talk aviation like I had stayed at a Holiday Inn Express the night before.  After holding B for a while during the storms a young pregnant couple did ask how I got so lucky having such a calm and mild mannered baby.  All I could say was “Don’t’ know, I guess we just got blessed.”  We proceeded to chat a few minutes about babies and how some people’s kids cry a lot, and pitch fits, and act-a-fool.  You know, typical expecting parent talk.  No need to rain on the parade of someone just making friendly conversation.  It was already raining out the tournament.

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The following Monday Bentley had her CT scan.  Unlike the MRI, the CT was just as a means for the ENT to gain a picture of the structure of Bentley’s Inner Ear.  This was not for determining a cause of her deafness.  Again, though, we were expecting to have to put Bentley under anesthesia.  This did create some anxiety because of how tough anesthesia was during the muscle biopsy.  It really took a toll on her respiratory system, due to the intubation and all.  Fortunately, the Anesthesiologist was all for trying the CT without any meds.  They swaddled B up real tight and got her all cozy.  Then they tried the scan.  She was done before I could return with another expensive breakfast sandwich.  What a great day!  It’s the little victories that can make a huge difference.  Instead of having to spend half the day waiting on B to wake up, we were back home by about 9am.  Fun times.  Oh yeah, we have received the report and her inner ear is structurally intact.  Many praises for this.  We now know that all of the anatomical aspects needed for Cochlear Implants are in place.   This does not guarantee we get CIs, or that they will be successful.  It is just one more BIG checkbox along the journey.  

We took Bentley to her first visit to a pool.  We met Lindsay’s sister and B’s cousins at their neighborhood pool for an afternoon swim.  As I may have mentioned B loves the bath.  So naturally she was a fish already.  We played in the kiddy pool with her and she loved it.  Lots of smiles and giggles.  One day I’m having a pool lined with wrestling mats and inlaid with subwoofers.  She’ll be able to swim around without getting hurt when she nails the wall, and feeling the music the whole time.  I think I saw a pool with subs on MTV Cribs once.  Might have been Master P’s crib.  I’ll have to call his pool guy.
Can’t remember if I mentioned Genetics was making us a Cardiology referral.  That’s a heart doctor.  We had that visit last week as well.  Bentley had and EKG and an Echocardiogram.  This was right up my alley, and one of the first things we’ve done where I could look at the monitors and know what was going on.  It was our last Daddy Daycare field trip.  Being that it was Lindsay’s last day of work.  We had a blast.  Everyone in the waiting room thought B was a cutie, and she put on a smiling show for everyone.  The good news was her heart is in tip-top shape.  No sign of deformity or weakness at this point.  More good news!

Sunday, June 16th, was Bentley’s Baptism/dedication thing at church.  Of course most of the fam joined us for this.  It was our way of professing and committing to raise Bentley in a manner that glorifies God and teaches her the scriptures until she is old enough to make the decision to accept Christ for herself.  It was a great day, not only for the event we celebrated, but mainly as a time to come together as a family, share a meal, and give thanks for the blessings and grace our God has given us.  
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Feeding is still going well.  After a lengthy discussion with Bentley a week and a half ago, I decided to pull her NG tube and give her a trial off of it.  She is doing pretty well without it.  She’s taking in enough calories to hit her targets, most days.  We’ll take her in to check her weight soon.  If she’s not gaining or hits a couple days of poor eating we’ll put it back down.  I just decided she needs some time to be herself and not have that thing stuck to her face for a little while.  I think she can tell a difference.  She still loves Enfamil.  She has discovered a love of fruits, and a hatred of veggies.  I can’t blame her. The green beans taste terrible.  Hopefully we can keep the tube out.  We shall see.

Finally, we made a House Hunting trip down to Dothan.  We finally had a number of potential dwellings available to make a trip instead of just phone calls, pictures, and mom’s drive-bys.  Bentley did great on the trip.  This was sort of trial run to see how well she will travel between Bham and Dothan within 24hrs for the weekly trips that will start once we move.  B handled it well.  She slept some, played with her feet some, and of course cried for what we suspect were gas bubbles.  Or she was screaming “GET ME OUT OF THE DARN CARSEAT ALREADY!  I WANT TO LAY ON MY GIRAFFE AND HOLD MY FEET WHILE BEING UNRESTRAINED!”  We’re not sure yet what the cries were about, but they didn’t last long. 

That is all for now.  I’ll try and update you on how our Kindermusic class goes.  We started that last week, but I’m going tomorrow to see if it is like the class I would hold in our padded and thumping swimming pool.  I can assure you one thing, this dad won’t be prancing to the music like Lindsay did last week.  I’ll walk with a cool yet rhythmic swagger while I hold B.  HAHAHAAHA  this could be a train wreck.  Thanks again for the prayers.  Don’t forget about Judah Elizabeth out in a Medford, OR hospital.  She needs strength, nutrition, healing, growing, and to poop (that’s according to Eric).  We praise God for how far she’s come since birth, but know she’s not out of the woods yet.  Have a great week.  Touch somebody’s face for Bentley:)


11 Comments
Denise Lewis
6/19/2013 09:35:42 pm

It was great to read your wonderful update. Bentley seems like she is making so much progress.
Thank you for posting. Best of luck on your move to Dothan.

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Helena
6/19/2013 10:45:32 pm

BB's pix are great. I am praying for JE's healing and strength. My daughter weighed a little less than that 12 years ago...she now weighs 120lbs! All thing are possible through Christ...

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Sally Headley
6/20/2013 12:36:52 am

What great news to hear about Bentley's progress and the fun times you guys are having together! 'Hope Dothan is a nice change of scene and all goes well! Love to you all.

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Lissa Hines
6/20/2013 04:03:17 am

Oh my Goodness!! Justin, you are a GREAT writer! I am so enjoying your updates on cutie pie Bentley. WIll definitely keep Judah in our prayeres, too (along with you guys). Much love!!

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Connie Scollin
6/20/2013 08:13:47 am

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Karen Isaminger
6/20/2013 08:17:14 am

What a great report on Miss Bentley! Just think, we may see " Bentley's Crib' on tv one day, all designed by her Daddy. Be assured that along with Bentley, you and Lindsay, my prayers are wih Judah Elizabeth and her family.

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Rene' Burke
6/20/2013 08:50:14 am

What a wonderful update on Bentley! She is such a doll! Not only are all of you in my prayers but so is Judah and family!

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Pam Smith
6/20/2013 09:44:23 am

Such exciting times to come for Bentley and your family!! Good luck on the house hunt! Oh, and check out this cool pool idea: www.hiddenpools.com

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Edith Jones. Friend of Jess and jen
6/20/2013 11:38:35 am

You are incredible parents who see everything with such a positive attitude! As a retired SLP,I love hearing about her cochlear implants and language development. And you are so funny!! Please sign me up or email notifications.

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Kim Spencer
6/22/2013 03:05:53 am

Justin, this is all wonderful news! I know you guys have a long way to go but every piece of good news is a step in the right direction. Can't wait to see her and hold her when I am in Dothan. Your mom and I will have to take her to see my mom at The Terrace at Grove Park. She will be a hit there!! Your mom has been so sweet to visit my mom, so Bentley will just be icing on the cake. Prayers continue for all. Love to all. Spence and Kim

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Kristen Stewart
6/27/2013 06:03:40 am

Oh I enjoyed meeting Ms. Bently at her baptism the other day! She is absolutely precious! I love reading your posts Justin. You are so positive and a great father. Hope to hear more positive updates about your little one!
Kristen

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